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My custom design creator id is MA-0859-9229-8854 in case y'all want to wear my styles 😎

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Does anyone else feel this way…?

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Even now I'm like, gosh, is this post right? Did I get everything wrong? Am I gonna get called out, rightly, for not listening to everyone else's experiences? Am I gonna cut off people who I might be able to help? Am I gonna cut off people who might be able to help me?

Am I going to be left alone, at risk, when the tiny handful of people who are my friends today move on or worse, because I can't make the meaningful connections I need to make?

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I intellectually know the need to put in the emotional work for our friends as well as our partners, to give them space to be vulnerable, to be vulnerable in turn, to support and ask for support.

But I am afraid. Of being ineffectual. Of not understanding. Of missing the point. Of being too much. Of my feelings not being "right". Of people seeing me as a man and their brains seizing. Of succumbing to years of gender conditioning and leaning on women.

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your relationships with your friends deserve the same work you would put into relationships with your partner. we put that emotional work in for our partners because western society is super isolated and teaches you to only be dependant on yourself and the person you're in a romantic relationship with. this means you end up at least somewhat dependant on one person and you *have* to put in that work so you can like, stay financially safe and stuff

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the thing that made me a better person was me shutting the fuck up and listening to people who had different life experiences than i did

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if social networks were actually places you could be in instead of gestalts formed by metaphors like "threading" and "following" we could get a lot more things hammered out. when's a UX designer going to figure out how to make the "sit someone down and talk it out" activity work on computer, huh

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In four months someone’s going to give me a friendly hug, and I’m just going to burst into tears

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the music in the muppet movie is really good

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Oh my gosh. *fans self* Today I was supportively bisexual.

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Chillin' with Erik in the new plaza

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Computer! I need a full-length mirror, a wardrobe, and a workbench. All pink.

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Brought over an ensemble I'd made in β™₯

Last year I saw Matthew Riemer give his talk, "Seeing Queer History", at the local library. It was so good. Bought his book on the spot.

I've been waiting for someone at the library to post the talk for y'all like I thought they were gonna… they didn't.

But there's a newer version of the talk that was given at The Kennedy Center earlier this year, and that _is_ available. CW politics and references to anti-queer violence. youtube.com/watch?v=2VK5liGzul

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