In a conversation I was having about how I'm happy that even binary-identifying people can use gendered language to describe how they feel, I said nobody needs to set a bar labeled "your gender must be THIS intense" and I am pretty proud of that one
@zigg [Muffled Gender In The Background]
[Gender grows steadily more intense]
[INTENSE RHYTHMIC GENDERING]
@popstar UNTS UNTS UNTS UNTS
@zigg A dear friend wrote a blog post about gender being not just a matter of "direction" towards maleness or femaleness but also a matter of intensity. https://assumebenevolence.wordpress.com/2016/05/20/paint-chart/
It was the first time I realized I just felt no intensity of gender at all, I couldn't tell if mine was any hue in this metaphor because it was just too pale a shade! So I think this can be a good and useful way for people to think about gender.
More queer, more garden.