jude @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden

lighting a candle for all of you who're hurting or confused or in an impossible or dark position/place and don't know where things could possibly go from here. i love you.

“Every day
I see or I hear
something
that more or less
kills me
with delight,
that leaves me
like a needle
in the haystack
of light.
It is what I was born for—
to look, to listen,
to lose myself
inside this soft world—”

--- Mary Oliver, "Blue Iris: Mindful"

the parts of you they've tried to reprogram were really important. the parts of you they've tried to make you feel ashamed of were parts of you that are so good. there is nothing wrong with you. disrupting straight white allistic norms are so much more important than respectability politics, and i hope you find people who celebrate those parts of you instead of punishing them, because you deserve that.

and I gave a beer to a bum that was drinking
and I gave some sauce to my bestest friend for cooking
and I gave water to all I thought were thirsty

and that's how I learned how to survive 🌱

💚 here's 40+ PDFs for coping skills, challenging thoughts, managing anger, managing distress, identifying and rating feelings, relaxation, sleep hygiene, and therapist materials

https://depts.washington.edu/hcsats/PDF/TF-%20CBT/pages/cognitive_coping.html

loves online quizzes, is terrible at self-assessment

t-shirt that says "cisnormativity almost ruined my life"

link: someone doing an entire ice skating routine to cotton eye joe, good content

https://youtu.be/rNe1nbZdtKA

thank you for cw-ing your autism speaks/autism awareness posts! you are all good good humans

amidst everything that is happening right now is folks realizing for perhaps the first time the extreme wealth disparity in the states and it's starting to feel like we're on the brink of being able to create the kind of society where everyone has what they need

trans? have stuff you need to carry?: animal-shaped backpack. fruit-shaped. cute and functional. queercoded even.

we should normalize animal-shaped backpacks again. sharks. cats. perhaps even bananas. what's the harm.

any last words before i turn every last one of you gay with my great big laser mounted on top of the roof of the highest building in the city, i ask, gayly

not to be an edgelord but when the poor shall have nothing more to eat, they will eat the rich

cannolies are like la croix in that they taste like someone is eating dessert in another room, i do not think they should be allowed

if a thing is poisonous the amount it's fun to look at, triples. my husband is a scientist and he's not saying im incorrect

like far be it from me to tell anyone it's not acceptable and understandable to want to die and follow through with it, but i hope that you know that there's one more light in this world because you exist, and it's there regardless of whatever else you do or don't do.

i love you all so much.

love gays love 2 be gay

it's my fondest belief that stacy's mom and jesse's girl both share the same cinematic universe

and jesus paused and looked over the crowd, saying, "let he who has not consumed half a cherry chapstick and then returned it to their mother's purse cast the first stone."

you can just be trans.

If you'd like to help support the restaurant relief efforts, you can make a donation here. Donors can also opt to send food or other basics (think paper towels, diapers and toilet paper) via Amazon to the Wicker Park Big Star, located at 1531 N Damen Ave, Chicago, IL 60622.

https://leeinitiative.org/?fbclid=IwAR2RbKyErC_5PE9X7l5TcnH34CykdQWoQplsOkVQzFTcnHmDaZPTQgg7ZC0

link: the lee initiative

The setup (in Wicker Park) is first come, first served, but anyone who presents valid ID and a recent restaurant pay stub can receive dinner and a bag full of groceries, which includes canned goods, proteins, veggies and other basic staples.

https://www.timeout.com/chicago/news/chicagos-unemployed-restaurant-workers-can-pick-up-dinner-and-groceries-at-big-star-032320?cid=%7Echicago%7Enatsoc%7Efacebook%7Eechobox&fbclid=IwAR3aO1cg1ghZNmWjIbo93C_uwqYXGtICKY1EUaxBzO8rnJSyjvtZNHB02nc#Echobox=1584985024

link: chicago's unemployed resturant workers can pick up dinner and groceries at big star

if it’s a highway
i am trying just to drive
i am trying just to drive
stay awake & stay alive
if it’s a highway
i want you there at the side
i want you there at the side
still awake & still alive