he takes care of his parents bt he's extremely vulnerable & doesn't have the money to afford care if his case gets severe. if u can donate anything it'd be so helpful; he basically raised his niece and done so much for his community & now he needs some help

you can donate money to his niece's venmo at: @shortybri

all money would be allocated to medical expenses + helping take care of his elderly parents!

#MutualAid

**femboy mcmalewife** @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden · Dec 02, 2020, 21:02

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**femboy mcmalewife** @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden · Dec 02, 2020, 21:02

Dec 02, 2020, 21:02

femboy mcmalewife @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden

just makin this to pin it but please don't be sexual at me

**femboy mcmalewife** @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden · Jun 25, 2020, 22:12

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**femboy mcmalewife** @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden · Jun 25, 2020, 22:12

Jun 25, 2020, 22:12

femboy mcmalewife @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden

hey, here's a twitter thread of black trans women's gofundmes that haven't reached their goals yet:

https://twitter.com/planet_eros/status/1273833044768669699

**femboy mcmalewife** @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden · Jun 25, 2020, 05:36

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**femboy mcmalewife** @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden · Jun 25, 2020, 05:36

Jun 25, 2020, 05:36

femboy mcmalewife @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden

here's 40+ PDFs for coping skills, challenging thoughts, managing anger, managing distress, identifying and rating feelings, relaxation, sleep hygiene, and therapist materials

https://depts.washington.edu/hcsats/PDF/TF-%20CBT/pages/cognitive_coping.html

**femboy mcmalewife** @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden · Jun 21, 2020, 02:14

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**femboy mcmalewife** @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden · Jun 21, 2020, 02:14

Jun 21, 2020, 02:14

femboy mcmalewife @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden

i accidentally deleted my old account so if ur a friend or mutual who i forgot to add just lmk i'm so sorry

**femboy mcmalewife** @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden · Jan 15, 2021, 08:28

**femboy mcmalewife** @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden · Jan 15, 2021, 08:28

Jan 15, 2021, 08:28

femboy mcmalewife @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden

femboy mcmalewife IV

**femboy mcmalewife** @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden · Jan 14, 2021, 21:47

**femboy mcmalewife** @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden · Jan 14, 2021, 21:47

Jan 14, 2021, 21:47

femboy mcmalewife @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden

i like that we as a species all feel enchanted when we encounter glowing mushrooms in video games

**femboy mcmalewife** @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden · Jan 13, 2021, 20:36

**femboy mcmalewife** @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden · Jan 13, 2021, 20:36

Jan 13, 2021, 20:36

femboy mcmalewife @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden

i am but one fediverse raccoon among many..we screm at ass n eat ur trash...we are..legion >:)

**femboy mcmalewife** @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden · Jan 13, 2021, 20:26

**femboy mcmalewife** @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden · Jan 13, 2021, 20:26

Jan 13, 2021, 20:26

femboy mcmalewife @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden

dumb ph/binding question

has anyone who binds had breathing issues/chest pains and gone to a doctor for it? did they generally understand how binding constricts your chest/take you seriously/was it something they could fix?

**femboy mcmalewife** @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden · Jan 12, 2021, 23:48

**femboy mcmalewife** @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden · Jan 12, 2021, 23:48

Jan 12, 2021, 23:48

femboy mcmalewife @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden

hey, someone on tumblr put together this list of indigenous grocers/businesses you can support by buying from directly!
https://cognitiveinequality.tumblr.com/post/639149382494748672/i-just-want-to-remind-everyone-how-affordable

**femboy mcmalewife** @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden · Jan 09, 2021, 20:40

**femboy mcmalewife** @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden · Jan 09, 2021, 20:40

Jan 09, 2021, 20:40

femboy mcmalewife @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden

catboys 🤜 🤛 vampies
drawing themselves w fangs

**femboy mcmalewife** @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden · Jan 07, 2021, 19:13

**femboy mcmalewife** @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden · Jan 07, 2021, 19:13

Jan 07, 2021, 19:13

femboy mcmalewife @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden

nonblack folks: if you wanna contribute to the fund so the artists get more than $100 each, venmo or paypal them with the comment "artist pot"

all money will be evenly divided among artists, n they'll post the recipets to their story

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**femboy mcmalewife** @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden · Jan 07, 2021, 19:12

**femboy mcmalewife** @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden · Jan 07, 2021, 19:12

Jan 07, 2021, 19:12

femboy mcmalewife @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden

yo, gendersauce on insta is giving micro grants to black women/trans folks who make art

to submit, email them your art page (on insta or a website), a photo of a piece of art you made, and a description of some supplies you'd like to buy: iamgendersauce@gmail.com

all submissions must be emailed today, they'll randomly select 3 winners n let u know via email!

if u win they'll feature ur art and post updates on how u use the money (if you want, and not w/o permission!)

**femboy mcmalewife** @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden · Jan 07, 2021, 03:34

**femboy mcmalewife** @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden · Jan 07, 2021, 03:34

Jan 07, 2021, 03:34

femboy mcmalewife @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden

hey, thanks everybody for boosting! he found a job and is starting tomorrow!

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**femboy mcmalewife** @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden · Jan 06, 2021, 16:21

**femboy mcmalewife** @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden · Jan 06, 2021, 16:21

Jan 06, 2021, 16:21

femboy mcmalewife @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden

they don't need to be tight in the hips and thighs like that! why can't you just make them fit normal!

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**femboy mcmalewife** @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden · Jan 06, 2021, 16:21

**femboy mcmalewife** @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden · Jan 06, 2021, 16:21

Jan 06, 2021, 16:21

femboy mcmalewife @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden

god women's overalls make me Mad

**femboy mcmalewife** @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden · Jan 06, 2021, 16:06

**femboy mcmalewife** @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden · Jan 06, 2021, 16:06

Jan 06, 2021, 16:06

femboy mcmalewife @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden

jude (jude dude)

**femboy mcmalewife** @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden · Jan 06, 2021, 15:52

**femboy mcmalewife** @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden · Jan 06, 2021, 15:52

Jan 06, 2021, 15:52

femboy mcmalewife @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden

i fell asleep before i could remember to make a post but, thank all yall for cw-ing for tone in ur posts; it makes it a lot more clear what ur trying to say or whether it's meant to be irony or sincere or a request for info or whatever. as someone who has a tough time reading tone online and off it makes this place way more accessible

**femboy mcmalewife** @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden · Jan 05, 2021, 00:18

**femboy mcmalewife** @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden · Jan 05, 2021, 00:18

Jan 05, 2021, 00:18

femboy mcmalewife @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden

silly dunk on a specific type of cishet woman, caps

nobody:

xian cishet woman on youtube: I LOVE BEING A CHAMPION OF MARRIAGE

**femboy mcmalewife** @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden · Jan 04, 2021, 20:16

**femboy mcmalewife** @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden · Jan 04, 2021, 20:16

Jan 04, 2021, 20:16

femboy mcmalewife @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden

I'm seeing a lot of allistic folks making posts about autistic people, sometimes the same ones who make autistic behaviors into a joke. we're not here to make you look like a good person. we don't need you to speak for us in already densely autistic spaces, there's autistic folks already doing that.

**femboy mcmalewife** @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden · Dec 29, 2020, 22:20

**femboy mcmalewife** @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden · Dec 29, 2020, 22:20

Dec 29, 2020, 22:20

femboy mcmalewife @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden

wish i was a chiken wearing a sweater in some lesbian's yard

**femboy mcmalewife** @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden · Dec 29, 2020, 06:36

**femboy mcmalewife** @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden · Dec 29, 2020, 06:36

Dec 29, 2020, 06:36

femboy mcmalewife @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden

wife
malewife

**femboy mcmalewife** @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden · Dec 28, 2020, 21:53

**femboy mcmalewife** @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden · Dec 28, 2020, 21:53

Dec 28, 2020, 21:53

femboy mcmalewife @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden

you deserve to be able to express pain, full stop. you deserve the room to feel bad and you deserve the space to talk about it. you don't owe anybody unconditional positivity

**femboy mcmalewife** @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden · Dec 28, 2020, 07:57

**femboy mcmalewife** @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden · Dec 28, 2020, 07:57

Dec 28, 2020, 07:57

femboy mcmalewife @gentlerdarknesses@queer.garden

y'all, can you cw unreality stuff? not just misinfo but also like the creepy surrealist type posts, shitposts about like supernatural lore, spooky aesthetic posts, stuff that hints at like being watched or the supernatural