abuse, long (15/15)
That’s why I’m writing this. That’s why me saying this is important. I’m outing myself as a advocate for these two victims. I’m not unbiased. But when you see a group of people all beating on the same person, it’s good to figure out why before you join in on the side that has the power.
abuse, long (14/15)
Abuse is designed to make the victim powerless; it is designed to use the victims poor coping skills against them. It is designed to strip the victim down to a single raw nerve, easy to handle because their reaction will be emotional and painful. It’s easy to denounce an angry person when you seem calm. That is how systems fight resistance.
abuse, long (13/15)
I can’t tell you how to react to this. I just needed you to know my part of this story. Lumb or one of its close friends will out the victims publicly; you’ll see the names and you will have to think about your reaction to them. You’ll feel that knee jerk urge to write them both off.
abuse, long (12/15)
It is a moral duty that hopefully makes the next warning easier, and the next, until people finally start believing the victims.
Lumb is an abuser. I urge you to consider things you’ve heard it say, words it has written or said half jokingly or in moments of real anger. See the flags that might seem yellow now, and realize they are probably very, very red.
abuse, long (11/15)
I have no receipts; I have stories that independently corroborate, a long context filled relationship with two people I know to be good and genuine, and my own instincts only. By all rights I will sound like I’m in the wrong, starting drama, stirring up shit.
I do not care.
I have to warn people.
Transfemme (she/her), 42, Pan/Poly
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